The human spirit has a natural attraction to celebrate life, as it ebbs and flows through the dark and light of our lives. Any excuse for a party hey?
Celebrating life is also about stopping, taking time watching as the sun sets, as a dog plays, a horse eats in a field. Mindfulness – not easy to do as our mind races quickly from one thing to another - problem solving and conflict resolution. I have to be honest, I struggle with this a lot. As soon as I reach a place, or end a task, my mind is already on another. A perpetual move forward – to the next thing… then the next adventure.
How do we take stock of that, paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally. Bringing one's complete attention to the present experience on a moment-to-moment basis. Observing death, being grateful, inner honesty, brute force, meditation? Meditation - good luck with that, I have had a love/hate relationship for 35 years as I practiced on and off mantra meditation. Rising at 4 in the morning, using a mala bead (like the rosary) to count around (108 of a 2 stanza mantra) – said 108 times. Daily, that’s roughly 2 hours in anyone’s life, my struggle was always the “work” I should be doing!
The basic meaning of this meditation is “Please Lord (Universe if you prefer) engage me in your service”. A very similar prayer to which Oprah has used for decades “Please Lord use me as your instrument”, it seems to have worked pretty well for her.
Back in the day, I was considered a bit of a weirdo for my philosophical choices, it wasn’t the done deal in the small New Zealand town community that I was raised. I am happy to say that today in February 2018 – mindfulness and meditation is all the rage. God, who knew I’d now be following the trend!
I had the great privilege of helping her transverse this planet for places unknown. She was a force of my nature my old mum – she gave to birth to 11 children, yet was artistic, fashionable, driven, hardworking, straight talking and had a wonderful eye for all things aesthetic. She was in her 90th year and ready, she was looking forward for what lay ahead. No regrets – well, maybe a few – she told my niece that there was clothes she should have bought!
Before the great celebration that is Christmas and New Year, my son Sharm and I also attended a celebration of love and union. If you ever get the invitation to an Indian wedding – go. It is done there like nowhere else, everyone is celebrated and considered. It goes for days as the various ceremonies are planned with beauty and attention.
It is also a celebration of two families joining and the new shared journey they take together. We were very honored to be there as guests and extended family of the Narains – the marriage of Karan their youngest son to the beautiful Sheena. I met this amazing family (Mithoo and Sweety) when I was 26, collaborating to work with craftsmen on this product of Bandhini – which for me celebrates all that is handmade beauty. Our kids were little then – now they are grown men who have taken up the reigns to now run what we started all those years ago. A celebration of tradition and Unity.
Image (Left) was taken in 1999, featuring Sharm (Tai's son) Mithoo & Sweety and their sons Karan and Sharan (who have now grown to run the business)
Wishing you all the mindful, celebrations of joy and possibilities for 2018!
10 comments
Lisa
Dear Tai,
in my oh so busy days, i always take the time to read your words, and am sure that my response is in keeping with all others.
You write from the heart, is always interesting & meaningful, and this time, so very beautiful.
Thank you for sharing.
Love, Lisa.
Danielle
Beautiful Tai, have a great 2018.x
Kerrie
Many thanks for sharing your beautiful story……
What a way to start my day…….heartfelt!
It is so nice to hear of someone else life journey…..take care!
Have a great day
Sandra
This is beautiful Tai! Thank you for the reminder and your lovely message
xx
Lauren
Hi Tai,
I wanted to let you know that I really liked your email letter. And I think I’ll go out and buy that dress today, so that not buying clothes isn’t one of my biggest regrets too. Your Mum sounds like an incredible woman. I can’t even get my head around having 11 children!
Thanks for sharing!
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